The Tao of Dating book by Harvard Ex-doc Helps Smart Women Stop Making Dumb Dating Mistakes

(PRLEAP.COM) Dr Alex Benzer of www.taoofdating.com, the author of the upcoming ‘The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Embracing Your Inner Goddesss and Finding the Fulfillment You Deserve’, was having a conversation in Boston a few years ago with his Harvard classmate Monica.

"So – are you seeing anyone?" Dr Alex asked. Monica shifted in her, chair, looked away and mumbled, "Well, no, not really."

Monica was in her early thirties, good-looking, smart, funny, well-read and very successful. "If she was single, there had to be something seriously wrong with the world. There should be a line around the block of men dying to go out with someone like her," said Dr Alex.

As Dr Alex had more conversations with smart, single professional women, he noticed a pattern.

"It seemed that talented, educated, attractive women were having unfulfilled dating lives on an epidemic scale," he remarked. "This came to me as a big surprise. These exceptional women couldn’t find the right guy, were with the wrong guy, had relationships that didn’t last, or had given up entirely on dating. That made me sad.

"That’s when I thought there was a need for a dating guide specifically geared for smart professional women."

Dr Alex had written a similarly-themed guide for professional men (The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success with Women) in 2005. The book was well-received, so in mid-2006, he set out to write the version for women.

The book took 2.5 years longer to write than he thought.

"Turns out it’s a lot harder to write a dating guide for women when you’re a man," Dr Alex admitted.

In the meantime, Dr Alex was getting daily letters from men about their dating woes with women. From these thousands of men, a database of their intimate preferences started to emerge — something that would be of potential interest to women.

Then something else happened.

"In late 2008, I visited my college classmate Holly in Boston. She was recently divorced and had been dating Tim, a tall, handsome artist, for just over a year," recounts Dr Alex.

"Apparently, Tim was regularly putting Holly down for no reason and making her feel guilty about spending time with friends. And when Holly’s daughter had an emergency, he refused to show up in the hospital. All while Holly was supporting Tim financially."

Later it came to light that Tim’s abuse was physical as well as verbal. "This absolutely broke my heart," said Dr Alex. "Holly, one of the sweetest people I know, deserved better than that.

The project became intensely personal, and two months after that conversation, the book was finished – as was Holly’s relationship with Tim, who asked him to move out.

"New science + ancient wisdom = a dating guide for the modern woman"

The Tao of Dating (www.taoofdating.com) combines modern scientific research with ancient Eastern wisdom to give women a clear path towards a fulfilling dating life.

"In the end, this book is about empowering women and awakening them to their own goddess nature. They have always had the power; they just need to be reminded of it," says Dr Alex.

The step-by-step, highly practical structure of the book reflects Dr Alex’s scientific background. No feel-good volume of platitudes this. He gives readers detailed procedures on how to find, meet, attract and date men and how to perpetuate their relationships through time. He even has word-for-word instructions on how to break it off with a man in such a way that he remains a loyal friend.

In conclusion, Dr Alex says, "For most of us, nobody bothered to teach us one of the most important skills in life: how to connect meaningfully with another human being. My hope is that this Valentine’s Day, The Tao of Dating can offer women a roadmap for more fulfilling and joyful connections and a path to recognizing their innate beauty and strength."

For an audio download of Dr Alex’s 50min seminar, How to Be a Modern Goddess, visit www.taoofdating.com/valentine.

Dr Alex Benzer holds an A.B. from Harvard, an M.Phil. from Cambridge University and an M.D. from the University of California, San Diego and maintains a hypnotherapy clinic in Los Angeles. ‘The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Embracing Your Inner Goddess and Finding the Fulfillment You Deserve’ will be released on Valentine’s Day 2009. For an advance copy of the book, contact Dr Alex at dralex(at)taoofdating.com or at +1 877 5-WISELY.

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